Although it is unfortunately happening all over the world, most of the murders and injuries we see in our country, especially in the main news bulletins, are violence against the opposite sex. Such incidents, unfortunately, often do not find their way in the judiciary, so their deterrence is questioned.
But we can’t say that everyone shows their reaction in this situation. Because there are also those who are attracted to the man/woman who perpetrates violence despite seeing that violence is being committed against the opposite sex. This situation, which especially those who show their reaction cannot make sense of, is called Hybristophilia. Although this situation is considered as a state of obsession rather than a disease on its own, it can also be considered as a discomfort as it can cause harmful situations.
What does this Hybristophilia mean?
Hybristophilia, also known as Bonnie and Clyde syndrome, is called when the other person awakens sexual desire in response to being aggressive or criminal. When we say guilty, of course, we do not limit this situation to shoplifting. Crimes such as rape, murder and willful injury can affect the opposite sex due to Hybristophilia.
These people even receive ‘admiration’ letters while in prison:
Yes, people they don’t know but like them can send letters to people who have been imprisoned for rape or murder. When these people do not go to prison, they can reach these people through channels such as social media.
For example, in the image below, you can see some of the messages sent to Ümitcan Uygun, who is on trial for crimes such as murder, violence and rape:
Unfortunately, there is not much research on the subject: Because people see it as a ‘preference’ rather than a disease
Let’s explain briefly: “As pedophilia is not a sexual orientation issue but a disorder from the beginning to the end, Hybristophilia likewise affects people’s minds and minds. It can be considered as an inconvenience as it has the potential to harm the body”. But there are points that we need to distinguish well here.
First of all, being affected by situations such as a life of crime does not make you suffer from this situation. Because nobody wants to live a boring life. But if this state of being affected is pulling you towards the people who committed the crime or if you want to live with those people in this life, there are things you need to think about at that point.
The second point you should keep in mind: There are two types of Hybristophilia
Basically, this situation is evaluated under two headings as passive and aggressive.
You don’t like when the other person is guilty, but do you think you can change them and still love them: Meet passive hybristophilia
As the name suggests, people with passive hybristophilia are romantic feelings do not become a partner in the crimes of the people they cherish. Even they don’t like it. “Then why are they considered under this heading?” In case you’re wondering, these people actually tend to think they can change the criminal they’re attracted to.
Besides, they think that they will not harm themselves because they have a romantic relationship.
Aggressive Hybristophilia where things get even darker:
When we get to this point, manipulation comes into play. People help criminals they love, and if a victim is required for a crime to be committed, they even lure them into a trap.
But the manipulated party is unaware of this manipulation. Even if it is only used for profit, he makes himself believe in a love that does not exist. Although there is not much research on it, these people are generally thought to lack love and see the exploitative profile of the other person as a shining light for themselves.
What could be causing this state of interest?
Due to the low number of studies, the exact reasons are not presented. However, there are some common conditions observed in people. We can list them as follows:
- Have been abused before
- Dark Triad
- Stereotypical personalities imposed by society
Contempt that continues violence The state of being seen:
It is thought that people with such a past experience violence in their subconscious minds, and therefore they are attracted to aggressive or criminal personalities. Because the violence seen in this relationship, even if not against themselves, is of a nature to continue what they had in their childhood.
Dark Triad, where narcissism, psychopathy and deceit coexist:
Men who have the three characteristics we have mentioned are more likely to be aggressive or criminal than normal. The people we are talking about here do not commit the crime once, they go beyond and live in a life of crime. This, experienced and seen as reality, appeals to some women.
Both in our country and abroad, you can see people who receive hundreds of letters from women they do not know, even though they are in prison. If you want to research, you can take a look at names like Ted Bundy and Charles Manson.
Society’s imposition of thoughts such as “whatever you call a man will be tough”:
When such thoughts take place in people’s minds, Considering how many people television has reached in our country, the share of domestic TV series is quite large, stereotypical personalities inevitably form in the minds. In this context, while the men try to be an unnatural and unnecessary dominance in the relationship, the girls think that they should accept this.
As we said, this situation often arises because of the stereotypical personalities of the society. One of the parties, who thinks that the nature of the relationship should be like this, is inclined to violence, while the other considers it quite normal. People who know that the nature of the relationship is not like that, on the other hand, are content with not being able to make sense of it from the outside.
So is there no cure?
Unfortunately, there is no single way or drug treatment for this problem. The situation depends on many factors, such as how obsessed people are and how ready they are to do whatever they can for the offender. For this reason, it will be more efficient to meet with people privately and to determine a way according to their own situation.
But as we have said, it is very difficult to prevent murders and injuries caused by hybristophilia and to persuade people who suffer from it to treatment, as many people today see it as a matter of choice.
While most people feel safe around vigilante criminals, they may not want to believe they can sacrifice everything. The best thing you can do as an individual is to objectively evaluate what you read in this article and raise awareness of those around you who have this problem.
Sources: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
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