You met an individual on social media or by chance in real life, you liked each other and soon found yourself in a relationship. In this relationship where everything develops rapidly; When you wake up one morning, you can never reach your date again…
Although it may sound too dramatic or exaggerated; The story of many individuals exposed to Ghosting Relationship is not that different from the above story. Today, we will examine the Ghosting Relationship in its entirety with you.
Origin and meaning of the term Ghosting
Ghosting is a term derived from the word “ghost”, which means ghost in English, and passed into our language directly as Ghosting, as in English. We can translate Ghosting into Turkish as ghosting or being a ghost.
The concept of Ghosting Relationship is defined in a single sentence as “without any reason; we can explain it as “who leaves his partner at once, never lets his partner reach him, and severs ties forever”.
The origin story of Ghosting
Ghosting is a concept that emerged naturally in the early 2000s with the spread of the internet in our lives. Relationships that start with the step of meeting, especially on social media, are the relationships where Ghosting is experienced most frequently. It must be admitted that it is never easy for a person who has been in our close circle for years and with whom we have mutual friends to suddenly disappear, but this is quite simple in relationships that start on social media.
Causes of Ghosting
If we divide Ghosting into two as exposed (passive) and exposing (active) parties; The exposed person has no characteristics. In Ghosting, all the key roles are on the exposing side, that is, on the active side.
Individuals who prefer the Ghosting Relationship are generally described as overly arrogant and abnormally self-admiring, in short, narcissistic. The aim is simply to admire oneself, to be fed by this admiration and to reach the saturation point.
Ghosting’s introduction, development and conclusion phase
Individual; first of all, he chooses an individual who is not in his close circle, even through social media. This individual goes through a process of showing intense interest, expressing himself, and proving himself. If the other person shows a positive response to this interest, he continues and wants to make sure that he is understood.
After the process of being sure, it gradually enters the expectation process and begins to feed on the admiration of its partner. When this admiration becomes commonplace; then he decides to become a ghost and disappears forever without any explanation.
Developments immediately after Ghosting
With the disappearance of the active individual, a process of bewilderment and trying to comprehend what has happened begins in the passive individual. By the active individual; phones are never answered, even the number is now out of service. Social media accounts are completely closed. If there was a real Ghosting; couples never see each other again, they do not communicate.
The life of the passive individual after Ghosting
The individual questions himself in general at first. He tries to understand if he has made an irreversible mistake. If he understands that the process is not related to him, but because of the problems of the other party; The individual continues his life as usual. If he thinks that the process ends like this because of his own responsibilities, the individual blames himself, lacks self-confidence in a new relationship and may have to struggle with some psychological problems.
Life of the active individual after ghosting
For the individual, this is neither the first nor the last goodbye. The first thing he will do now is to meet someone from scratch, to prove himself to him and to be fed with a sense of admiration for him. When it reaches the saturation point, it will sail to new horizons again.
Golden advice to avoid Ghosting
In order to protect ourselves from Ghosting, first of all, we make our choices not on social media as much as possible; We have to do it from our social circle. We should take care to choose the people with whom we have mutual friends in the friendships we have gained from social media. Even if we cannot follow the first two recommendations; In case of a possible Ghosting, we should never blame ourselves and continue our normal lives.
Some data and scientific implications about ghosting
- Ghosting is most common in individuals between the ages of 18-29. As you can imagine, almost all Ghosting relationships consist of relationships that start over the internet.
- Experts, Ghosting; defines it as psychological violence, emotional abuse and emotional cruelty.
- The most common applications of Ghosting; It is listed as Instagram, Facebook and Tinder.
- According to the report published by the UK-based YouGov research company; 10 out of 1,000 Americans end their relationship with Ghosting.
- Due to its prevalence in our age, the word was included in the world-famous dictionary Collins English Dictionary of HarperCollins Publishing House owned by News Corporation in 2015.
But have you been exposed to Ghosting before? If you have been exposed; How did you or did you get through this process? Have you ever had a friend exposed to Ghosting? You can express your ideas and thoughts in the comments.
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